How To Outsmart The "All Or Nothing" Mentality

"Perfect or nothing" is a common reason people quit. But a simple reframe can ensure that nutrition or exercise misses don't stop...

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Editor’s Note
Most health advice focuses on what to do.
Very little focuses on what actually keeps people doing it.

Inside the Pump Club app, we get to see that difference in real time through live coaching calls, Q&As, and daily conversations with people trying to make progress in the real world.

A few patterns stand out every January. And they have less to do with workouts or food rules, and more to do with how people respond to small mistakes.

We wanted to share a handful of lessons and breakthroughs from the Pump Club app so you can experience the benefits too. Not theory. Just the hands-on advice that gives people a real edge when consistency is on the line.

How To Outsmart The “All Or None” Mentality

During a nutrition Q&A, a member asked:
I have an “all or none” mentality. For instance, I have a drink, I eat one cookie or a piece of candy, and mentally I give in and have a lot more. Then I get a red X, and just give up. Seems weird, but that’s the mental challenge for me?

This is a classic problem, and the fact that you can name it means you’re already halfway out of it. The short answer: the red X isn’t the problem. The story you tell yourself after the red X is.

Let’s walk through this step by step.

Step 1: Name the real failure

Most people define failure as: “Eating the cookie.” But that definition is wrong, and it sets the trap.

The real failure is this sequence: Small deviation → moral judgment → emotional permission to quit → damage multiplies

So when you eat the cookie, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to prevent a small deviation from turning into a full derailment?”

That’s the problem to solve.

Step 2: Redefine what the red X actually means

Right now, your brain interprets the red X as: “I failed” or “Today doesn’t count anymore.”

That interpretation is doing the damage. Instead, ask: “What is the smallest possible response that keeps this from getting worse?”

Step 3: Install a “circuit breaker” rule

You need a pre-decided rule that activates immediately after a slip before emotion takes over.

Option A: The “Next Bite Rule”

After a red X, the next bite must be protein or fiber. Not later. Not tomorrow. Immediately.

Option B: The “One More Doesn’t Exist” Rule

There is no such thing as “one more” after a deviation. Only “back to normal.” This works because the second cookie is where damage accelerates, not the first.

You’re not banning foods. You’re banning continuation.

Option C: The “Red X = Yellow Light” Reframe

Red currently means: stop caring. Reframe it as proceed carefully. A yellow light doesn’t mean floor it. It means slow down and reorient.

Step 4: Replace moral language with mechanical language

All-or-nothing thinking feeds on identity words:

“I’m bad.”
“I screwed up.”
“I blew it.”

Those words trigger emotion → emotion triggers overeating.

Switch to engineering language:

“That raised calories by ~150.”
“That increased hunger probability later.”
“That doesn’t require a response, just normalization.”

No drama. No story.

Step 5: Make “compliance” a range, not a binary

Binary tracking systems are gasoline on perfectionism. So you need graduated wins.

For example:

100% day = great
80–95% day = still a win
<80% day = learning day

Step 6: Ask the right nightly question (this locks it in)

Instead of: “Was I perfect today?”
Ask: “Did I stop the spiral faster than last time?”

That’s progress.

You don’t overeat because you lack discipline. You overeat because your brain is trying to resolve discomfort created by self-judgment.

This approach removes the judgment before it hijacks behavior.

And remember: One imperfect choice does not require a matching second one.

Tips From Live Coaching Calls

Every week, we host live calls with our coaches to answer questions, do form checks, and keep you on track. Here are two videos that will help you move better.

How To Squat Better (With A Swiffer): From Coach Jen’s Zoom Call

The Cat-Cow Cue For Stronger (And Back-Pain Free) Deadlifts: From Coach Nic’s Zoom Call

Arnold’s Q&A

Arnold joined for his 49th Q&A. Here are a few highlights.

When You Want to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

The “Health Hack” No One Likes To Admit

Arnold’s Favorite Stoic Lesson

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We’re not rewarding intensity. We’re rewarding consistency.

Because the people who win long-term aren’t perfect, they’re persistent. And we can help make that your reality.

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